On Virginity and Business

On Virginity

People keep on asking: “why are nigerians obseesed with virgins and virginity blah blah blah?”

So I was reading “Arrow of God” by Chinua Achebe. I’ve had this book for about 3 years now. Never read it. Anyways, I was reading it and I got to the part where Obika’s new wife came then I realized why Nigerians are always talking about virgins and keeping virginity.

From days of old, virgins were held in high esteem. They were highly sought after. Virgins were allowed to be proud. Mothers were proud of their virgin daughters. Being a virgin was the height of success(before marriage sha) and if a girl was found as a virgin, the husband(and/or his family) would send gifts to his new wife’s family. Non-virgins on the other hand were ridiculed. It was practically an abomination to not be a virgin(if unmarried).

I think that sense of pride in being a virgin that was etched in our forefathers is still in us.

On Business
So I went for the Lagos Makeup Fair. It was FUN. I was bored at first sha. That Saturday was probably the best Saturday ever. A friend of the family was having a party 2 streets away from where the Makeup Fair was going on. So apart from the free makeup I won, I ate party jollof rice, small chops and took lots of drinks. Did I mention that that was the best day ever :). Unfortunately, I didn’t take any pictures. (Didn’t take my camera with me)

The day after, I did a mini photoshoot session with my sister. Me being the makeup artiste and photographer and my sister being the model.


Cultural Identity 2

Today’s post was supposed to be on something else but when i read that my cultural identity post, i decided to do a part two.

In case i didn’t drive my point well enough before, culture is important. Diversity is a positive thing. If everybody is the same and there is no difference, the world would just be bleh. Ok. On the issue of our culture, the foreigners want to be like us. We want to be like them. They want to have dark skin so they tan. We want to have light skin so we bleach. They want to learn about our culture and our roots. We(my generation) on the other hand are not concerned about anything. When we have all them festivals to showcase our culture here in Nigeria, you’ll see many white people there. They are interested unlike us. We are ashamed of our culture.
Sometime ago, i re add about 5 americans who came to nigeria to study Yoruba, Hausa and Igbo. 2 of them studied Yoruba, 2, Igbo and 1, Hausa. They all took names from the cultures they were learning about and spoke the languages. Many of us Nigerians can’t speak our languages. A girl was asked to write an essay in Yoruba about her mother. This was what her essay looked like: Iya mi is the best mother in the world. Iya mi is a good iya… you get. If we don’t preserve our culture, who will?. If we refuse to learn our languages now, a time would come when we will have to and then we will be paying foreigners to teach us our own languages.

Have a lovely day 🙂
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Cultural Identity

What is culture? What is our cultural identity
If i remember my social studies well, Culture is the way of life of a (group of) people. Your identity is your sense of self. Culture has already been defined. Therefore your cultural identity is your sense of self in relation to your way of life (culture)
Many of us are not proud of who we are. We aren’t proud of our cultures. You should be proud of who you are as a Nigerian. Whether you are Igbo, Yoruba, Hausa, Efik, Tiv, Ibibio and so on.
Me personally, I love my culture. I’m a yoruba girl and I’m proud of that fact. I love to wear iro and buba and tie gele. I love traditional food. I love watching Yoruba films. I love going to traditional weddings and if i had to choose only one type of wedding, i’ll definitely go for traditional. I love listening to and singing traditional songs. I’m not a tribalist. I have Igbo and Hausa friends and i love them just as much as my Yoruba friends. (I did Igbo from JS1 to JS3. I can speak Igbo to an extent and i know a few words in Hausa)
I’m not saying we should go over the top with our cultural beliefs or that we should become tribalists. Or that you should go and learn all the languages. No. I’m saying that we should be proud of our cultures and traditions. We shouldn’t discriminate against people of other cultures. It all boils down to loving one another and trying to understand one another.
In a blog i read a while ago, the author of the blog said (not exactly in these words sha but you get the idea) languages are the cause of most of our problems and that even in the bible, God created languages to create confusion for the people trying to build the tower of babel. I see her point but i say the problem is not the different languages we have and it’s not the difference in our cultures. The problem is the people that speak the different languages. The people that hide behind these cultures/tribes. All in all, we should be proud of our individual cultures/tribes

PS: it’s 11:40pm. There may be gbagauns in this post so try to ignore them.

PSS: I’ll start my 30 day challenge on the first of September.

Have a lovely day 🙂
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